First, I want to introduce you to an exercise called "the inner garden" (you can also use another place as a garden, but I know it this way).
Exercise:
Sit comfortably, preferably placing both feet well on the floor. Now close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, breathe in and out, relax.
Now imagine yourself walking along a path. Trees and bushes grow to the left and right and the sun shines pleasantly warm. In the distance you hear a stream splashing, look for this stream, can you see it? There is a bridge over the stream, so you can cross it.
After you have crossed the stream, the path leads to a garden gate. You open it and go through. Now you are in your inner garden. How big do you think your garden should be? What kind of border should it have, a wall, a hedge or a fence?